Mind is governed by learned behavior. Morality is an afterthought. To understand this is essential to transcend from the chaos of profound selfishness to the harmony of intentional boundaries (discipline). Removing chaos does not eliminate conflict, it gives conflict meaning, by providing the opportunity to learn. Learning, necessarily, involves integration.
Shame is a shadow emotion. Shame identifies and reinforces negative beliefs one may have of themselves. Just like anger, shame is usually misdirected towards others, in an attempt to deny dealing with the cause. Shame is an effect. If you want to change the effect, you must change the cause.
We may overcome adversity by channeling all emotion through a filter of gratitude. Gratitude is the art of recognizing how fortunate you already are.
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